Good Relationships with our children
Parenting Solutions
CONNECT AND CONNECTION
Relation means a connect and relationship means a state of connectedness between people.
We all have relationships. We have acquaintances, relatives, colleagues, neighbors and probably some friends. However, for a large percentage of us, many of these relationships are simply not fulfilling.
They are unfulfilling because they lack real strength; and they lack real strength because they lack real depth. Unfortunately, in today’s society, we tend to have shallow, superficial relationships with others, and it’s extremely hard for this kind of relationships to provide anything more than faint satisfaction.
Why should we have Good Relationships with our children?
Thinking of our children as masterpieces created by God doesn’t help them until we build a connection with them.
Parenting is a big job; serving as a child’s financer or behavior umpire isn’t enough. We need a relationship where there’s not just respect, but also love.
This kind of parent- child bond doesn’t just happen; it takes wisdom and intentional effort.
How to build Good Relationships with our children?
So, what should we do to build better relationships at home:
- Silent Moments & Positive Times
There are moments when you would be completely baffled by your kids. Then during your silent moments, positive thinking will disclose a strategy to try as a solution.
Think positively instead of adjudicating, your children and your relationships would be strengthened.
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Get into their space
From infancy through about age 8, kids spend a lot of time on the floor. We should be down there, too – playing games, pretending with dolls, building block forts. Fight the feeling that you are acting stupid; crawl through those embarrassed feelings and meet your kids.
- Share your instances
As hard as it may be, recounting our missteps can help kids who are 12 and older learn from our errors. They also get to see we are not perfect.
- Enjoy family time
There are so many ways to share time such as going to a football game or to a library. But don’t assume you’ve connected with your kids just because you were at the same event. Shared time involves asking questions (“What did you think about that referee’s call or about this book?”) and exchanging ideas (“I remember coming here with my dad”).
- Do household task together !
We all have things we want to do – alone. Even if we’re not thrilled about cleaning the garage, we’d rather do it by ourselves than supervise a team of rowdy kids.
The task may take longer, and your children will not do things like you would. If you can accept these facts, you’ll discover an endearing, enjoyable time.
- Be Silly
This isn’t just for small ones. Older kids like it when you act silly, too – even though you might hear, “Oh, Dad, stop it” or “This mommy is not my mommy.”
- Focus on Your EI
Also, spend time developing your Emotional Intelligence (EI). Among other things, this is your ability to recognize your own emotions, and clearly understand what they're telling you.
High EI also helps you to understand the emotions and needs of others.
- Appreciate Others
Show your appreciation whenever your child helps you. Everyone, even your child, wants to feel that their work is appreciated. So, genuinely compliment the kids when they do something well. This will open the door to great relationships.
- Listen Actively
Practice active listening when you talk to your children. People respond to those who truly listen to what they have to say. Focus on listening more than you talk when you are with your child, and you'll quickly become mommy/daddy the best.
Key Points
Devote a portion of your day to laying the foundation of good relationships. Even five minutes a day, if it’s genuine, can help to build a bond between you and your child. Be honest, avoid nagging, and try to compliment them on a job well done. After all, the more you give in your relationships, the more you’ll get back from them!